Can you share a lesson that you learned later in life and how it has impacted your current lifestyle, mentality, or attitude?

It’s very settling.

But my mind wouldn’t let go of it.

I always felt obligated to be polite, to be accommodating, to be the “nice” person because the dictionary of ‘good girl’ means they should be accommodating according to the society.

Why are people so terrified or bothered that a person has original creative ideas, hobbies or unique interests?

It drained me, messed with my peace, and cluttered my mind with unnecessary stress.

I am thankful to my profession & how I started from scratch that I was able to become so blunt & straight forward.

But here’s the hard truth I learned much later in life.

Why did I move on so fast from a relationship that was my whole life and I was so attached, I moved on by 2 months?

I lost a lot of my time to help, keeping my needs aside & the favour was never returned because most people took my time for granted & I also hesitated to ask for help

This is how I paid for not being able to say NO.

-Smita Mishra

What were some of the unforgettable incidents from your school life?

Whether it was a friend asking for a favor, an invitation I didn’t feel like accepting, or even a stranger requesting my time, I hesitated to say no

I used to be the kind of person who found it incredibly hard to say no. I would keep people’s feelings above mine.

No is a complete sentence & it should not be just used for CONSENT for sex.

What is the one thing you don't understand that others do?

I have ruined my sleep & rest hours with nonsense calls from nonsense people. No matter what the time, I have picked up their calls & listened to their rant for hours. I could not be blunt saying, ‘no am not interested in talking’

No meant she is being rebellious.

It’s very freeing.

Have you ever met someone and something seemed so unusual about them but you couldn't put your finger on what it was?

It’s very freeing.

I couldn’t say No to strangers talking & invading my personal life. It made me uncomfortable but somehow I entertained forcibly. This made me realize that I was an easy target for them. They thought of me as an easy prey. This always ended up hurting me because I knew there should be a boundary set , yet I couldn’t set it as I was just a naive small town girl

Everytime I said yes when I wanted to say no, I paid the price.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I lost a lot of money trying to fit in. I don’t like expensive English meals at fancy restaurants. But my friends did. I couldn’t say No thinking I would be judged. But I love ‘Desi food’. I didn’t enjoy the food, & I ended up paying huge split bills so many times

Many people especially girls will be able to connect with this answer.

It’s very refreshing.

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I would spend hours, sometimes days, replaying the decision in my head, regretting my response, wishing I had been honest.

I was always that one eager person to help someone in need without realising the consequences it might have. I have helped people from Quora & other places during the time when I had nothing on me. I couldn’t say No when a man manipulated me into giving him a huge amount for his daughters education during Covid. I later got fed up asking him to return. He returned after two years. His wife was a working lady at a good corporate place. He lied to me as he wanted money for his alcohol addiction

It has been an easy life.

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